synromeofadown wrote:

my friend not mentioning who was in a similar situation. He was a clever lad and when he turned 18 he went looking for his parents which his foster parents didnt realise. For some reason after a few months he asked his parents because he came to a dead end and found out he had been put into foster care because his parents used to sexual abuse him.

Not long after he got heavily involved in drugs and didnt listen to any of us he got into many a bust up with us over his drug taking. We all did drugs but he was doing crack heroin and anything else he could get his hands on. He is now a shadow of who he was and havent seen him since he was given housing in cambridge. apparently he is a cliche crack addict now and i miss the guy and wish he had never gone looking for his parents

Sorry to hear that

have you tried to get in touch and see if you can help him ?

.Nico wrote:

Sorry to hear that

have you tried to get in touch and see if you can help him ?

we have all tried mate, he is like a ghost and last any of us saw of him was when he turned up on my mates doorstep at 3 am high on crack. My mate who saw him said he was so incoherent it made him want to cry. apparently it lasted like 5 mins then the police came driving down the road and he bolted it

synromeofadown wrote:

we have all tried mate, he is like a ghost and last any of us saw of him was when he turned up on my mates doorstep at 3 am high on crack. My mate who saw him said he was so incoherent it made him want to cry. apparently it lasted like 5 mins then the police came driving down the road and he bolted it

I can actually understand this situation cause my closest friend from school got onto drugs, started beating up his girl, lost his job, complete downward spiral. It was sad watching how he completely lost his character and I havent spoken to him in a few years now and tbh I wouldnt want to cause he isnt the same person. Btw he wasnt adoped lol

Holly Says... wrote:

I'm not totally against it, like for medical reasons I understand but having one from choice I don't understand.

If you get pregnant, and you didn't intend to, that's your fault. 

If you don't want the baby, have it put up for adoption, there are so many people who can't have children, a few I know and I feel really bad for them when I hear  how they feel when they hear about someone having an abortion.

so? sorry but it not other girls fault if some people cant have kids

that line always gets thrown into this kind of topic

Holly Says... wrote:

I didn't say it was their fault.

Imagine being the situation where you really wanted a baby, and you heard about someone having an abortion, getting rid of something just like that, something that you would do anything for.

Btw, I can have kids, I'm not pouring out my own hurt 

i wouldnt care tbh its their choice

I don't intend to have an abortion ever, but sometimes circumstances make it impossible for people to cope. If I wasn't in a relationship with someone I KNOW would stick by whatever decision I decided to make, then the fact would be - I would have to sacrifice university, and for what, to bring up a child that wouldn't be financially supported and potentially brothers and sisters that would be equally disadvantaged. I don't care about ruining my own life, I would have taken the decision to abort soley based on the fact that my child wouldn't be brought up in a stable environment.