Hmm, do you still have feelings for your ex, or have you completely moved on? does he actually wanna get with you again, or is he someone who's like "i don't want you, but no other guy can have you either"

jokay wrote:

i'm kinda in the same situation. bin out few times with this lad, but he's just got out of prison for beating someone up..which he says he regrets.. but he still deals drugs as his main job . but he's dead nice to me, and keeps me out of all that kinda shit, but i keep playing hot n cold cuz being a law student i dunno if i wanna get involved lol. plus him n his mates are known round stoke to be dicks. but he seems nice n hes never bin a prick to me but i duno, to be honest im prob gonna leave it.

in your situation, i'd say go for it. it seems his only bad thing is that he was in prison. if u like him, go for it. if it doesnt work out, at least u have given it a try. and dont even take ur ex into account, because hes being a nob. he wont take his life. hes playing on it. and if he does..(sounds heartless but..) thats not your problem. can't make him your problem forever.

I'd be terrified to be with someone like that especially if him and his friends were known to be dickheads. Run awaaaay!

jokay wrote:

i know. well i've met his friends n i get on with them fine n i think they're nice.. but a couple of girls have said they are nobs. ..and people have said before 'they arn't the people to mess with' lol.. suppose you don't get the full impression of them til you have known them a while so maybe im best listening to others that are in the know!

It reminds me of a situation me and my friend were in. These guys were complete arseholes to me at school, literally tried to ruin my whole school life and stuff. Yet, they were nice to my friend so she insisted they were nice people at heart i was just like arghh can't you see that if they're so nasty to me, they could easily suddenly turn on you?! she didn't listen

Schnee wrote:

Hmm, do you still have feelings for your ex, or have you completely moved on? does he actually wanna get with you again, or is he someone who's like "i don't want you, but no other guy can have you either"

Noo I still love the guy, but I can't be with him for numerous reasons.

He still wants me though.

Schnee wrote:

Then it's unfair to move on and be with another guy if you still love your ex

I personally think you should stay single for a while, go out and have a bit of fun (not necessarily sleep around) but flirt with different guys, move on from your ex before considering a relationship with someone else stay good friends with this new guy, get to know him more during this time before you make a proper decision

That sounds best tbh.

xRaindrops wrote:

I have the chance now to start seeing someone, I do like him and he's a really nice guy to talk to etc.. He admitted he's not always been the best person in the past, by this he means trouble with the law, but since starting work and college, he has left the past behind him.

The Ex on the other hand says if I get with someone his life won't be worth living AKA "I will end my life."

.. What would you personally do in this situation?

EDIT: Feel free to move, I didn't know what this thread would come under.

If we're honest the chances of you marrying either of these guys is doubtful, their just the next guys. So don't stress about the new guys past and go enjoy yourself, we've all done stupid things, get over it.

And dont feel bad for the ex, tell him to grow some, you cant blame yourself for him not being a man.

If you like him go for it, fuck what your ex says.

He's probably just doing it to make you feel like shit, he won't kill himself, he knows it and you should know it.

Its called a guilt trip, not that he's got any right to guilt trip anyone tbh, but its just what some people are like.

Your allowed to be happy and if this guy makes you happy then don't miss out on a good opportunity cos of some other lad, especially not some other lad who is your ex and after what he put you through.